Dear Adoption, You Are My Biggest Blessing And My Greatest Sorrow

Adoptees often struggle with conflicting feelings about their adoptions. Joy and sorrow often intermingle. This conflict is articulately described by Bekah Mallory, who was adopted from an Indian orphanage after being abandoned on the streets of Ahmednagar.

Adopted by an American family and raised in the United States, she is grateful for the life that adoption has given her – but also broken by the losses that inevitably came with that adoption.

She writes, “Adoption, you have opened my eyes to what was taken from me and have given back in other ways. Some days I hurt to the point where I hate you . . . but then I realize what a gift you have been, even in my lifelong grief.”

Read her insightful essay here.

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Rachel Skousen

Rachel has a long-held passion for adoption that was sealed through her work as the content manager at She currently works as a content specialist at, finding and sharing amazing adoption content from across the web. She is a mom of three and loves reading and napping in her spare time.

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