If your kids aren’t talking about adoption without your prompting, it doesn’t mean they aren’t thinking about it. Sometimes kids just don’t know how to bring up their questions without having some sort of opening. This mom created a question box so that the kids could always have a place to voice their topics of discussion, even if they didn’t feel comfortable initiating the conversation.
The Adoption Question Box
When my kids were younger we didn’t always make a big effort to speak about adoption. We had some books and it came up from time to time, but weeks or more would pass with no mention of anything adoption or foster care related. My kids were little, and I figured they just didn’t think about adoption or being a transracial family very often. That may have been true, or as an adult adoptee friend of mine pointed out, adoption topics may have been popping into their minds but they didn’t know how to bring it up. It was entirely possible that I was sitting around waiting for them to take the lead, but being young, they didn’t know how. After that conversation I realized I needed to make more of an effort to be the one initiating frequent conversations.