Ashley Foster was placed for adoption in 1982, a time when open adoptions were virtually unheard of. In this article, she asks the question: How would my life have been different had open adoption been available for me?
In it, she explores three big things that she regrets about her childhood, things that came about because her adoption was closed. These include growing up knowing her sisters, having an opportunity to meet her birth father, and having the option to settle closer to birth family before she had rooted her family in place.
She argues that all adoptions should be open. She writes, “It would be a beautiful thing for people to give their child the best in life while still allowing access to their people.”