Adoptive parents often get a bad rap for closing adoptions or weaseling our way into an adoption match by promising a more open adoption than we intend to keep. Many adoptive parents crave the openness they see others sharing with their child’s birth parent. The desire to have openness for our child, to answer questions, to have roots, to cherish a relationship with such a special person. This is a touching story about the door always being open to a birth mother.
To My Daughter’s Birth Mother: Our Door Is Always Open
I saw you again today. Not over Facetime, or during one of the visits that have become all too rare these days, but in this look our daughter gave me. In the way her single dimple reflected yours as she smiled, and her eyes peered up at me like a mirror of your own.
She is your spitting image, a child who could not possibly look more like the mother who birthed her, or less like the mother who raises her. And I joke all the time that I am forever grateful for that fact; that I never could have made a child as beautiful as this one myself.