To My Child: You Were NOT A Second Choice

Adoptive mother Ryann Sefcik penned a beautiful letter to her son by adoption. Sometimes adoptees and people that know little about adoption believe adoption was a second choice. This second choice line of thought only perpetuates the idea that adoption is “less than.”

But adoption is not a second choice for Ryann. Her son was prayed for, wanted, and joined their family with so much love waiting for him. Ryann talks about how things ended up falling quite wonderfully in place to create this family her son is now a part of. Adoption was not a second choice for Ryann and her husband, but the path that God laid down for them to find their son.

Adoption was not a lesser choice, but a choice that was made to grow a family. Ryann writes, “Everything that led to your birth and your adoption into our family was orchestrated by the hand of God.”

Sometimes adoption is just God’s way for families.

You can read the full letter here.

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Crystal started in the adoption community as an intern for From there she became the content manager, and has recently moved to become a content specialist. Crystal has been touched by the hundreds of articles she's read and edited from all members of the adoption triad. In her free time she loves to spend too much time on Instagram, hike around Oregon, and hang out with her husband. Show her pictures of your puppies or share some salt and vinegar chips with her, and you've got a friend for life.

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