This Is What It’s Like To Visit The Son I Placed For Adoption

As someone with a very open adoption as well as a parent who openly talks about adoption and roles of our family it’s easy for me to just feel like the conversation is normal.  But my son is a similar age as Leo and yet, I am still surprised at his level of understanding at times.  When his birth parents visit him, they are constantly amazed at him.

This Is What It’s Like To Visit The Son I Placed For Adoption

This past summer, while I was visiting my son, I discovered that he knows what a “birth mother” is. I wasn’t sure that he knew, but it turns out he does. We were filling up water balloons in the park, standing in a long line at a water fountain. I struggled to keep the balloons intact as I filled them up, trying not to break them with my fingernails or lose all the water as I tied the stem. I was sure I’d be seen as a failure in Leo’s eyes if I screwed up water balloons. But he looked at me and said, “I want a yellow one. You take a yellow one. Guess what? We have the same color. And guess what? I grew in your tummy and you’re my birth mother.” It all tumbled out of him at once, very simply, very straight-forward, as if he’d known this truth all this life. Leo is 4 years old. I placed him in an open adoption in 2012, after getting pregnant while being broke, single, and an artist. It remains one of the better decisions I’ve ever made.

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Sarah - Content Specialist for, is a mother both biologically and through domestic infant open adoption. She resides with her husband and two boys in Ohio. She is passionate about open adoption and adoption education. In her free time she enjoys cooking, photography, writing, and hiking. You can find more of her adoption work at Heart For Open Adoption on Facebook or on

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