Of of the toughest and sometimes happiness moments for those who work in foster care is when a child is reunited with their family. It’s hard to let go of the child they have grown attached to, but feeling happy about the return is a good thing. Sometimes the return happens a little sooner than anticipated and you can only hope for the best. Here is an article about surviving and thriving after being reunited with family.
One of our Concurrent Planning Carers has recently shared her experiences and thoughts about surviving & thriving after her placement was returned home to birth family.
To all future and present carers: I am a single, concurrent carer who has had a baby return to birth family. By sharing some of my experiences, insights and tips, I hope I can help you build awareness and strengthen your concurrency muscles.
First of all, I’m living proof that there’s life after baby goes back. A good life too. Since Baby left, I’ve reflected on a job well done, bought a lovely house, continued with my freelance business, been on holiday, enjoyed ‘me time’ and ‘friends and family time,’ and I’m currently preparing for another placement. What’s not to like?
Still, I cannot lie, a return to birth family outcome is challenging.
Baby was placed with me at three weeks old. From fairly early on, pointers were towards a likely return to birth dad. Although dad had initially presented as vulnerable, he began working hard to turn his life around. Contact after contact, I saw him growing in confidence and life skills. Looking back, this was a positive thing to witness. But it’s not easy to watch while you’re falling for a baby you may have to say goodbye to.