You’ve been matched with an expectant mother making an adoption plan. You’ve decorated the nursery, you’ve attended doctor’s appointments, and the big day is finally here . . . the expectant mother you’re matched with is in labor. You’ve been invited to the hospital . . . what do you do now?
There are some important emotional and ethical considerations that you’ll need to make when planning your time in the hospital when an adoption plan has been made. Before the Big Day, it’s best that you sit down with the expectant mother who is planning on placing with you. Make it clear that her wishes are central. Discuss whether she wants you to be there with her. Determine who she would like to cut the umbilical cord. Decide who will hold the baby first. And then what?
This is a very sensitive time for everyone involved in an adoption plan. The hospital is a key place for providing a foundation of unconditional love and support in the open adoption relationship.
So how much do you know about ensuring that your time at the hospital goes smoothly?