Why “I’d get too attached” just doesn’t cut it

Is getting attached to a child a bad thing? People use that reason as why they don’t want to be a foster parent all the time.  It is a challenge, but it’s a good challenge. You should get attached to children that are in your care.  Getting attached as a reason to not foster just doesn’t cut it.

“I can never be a foster parent. I’d get too attached.”

If I had a dollar for every time I heard this. In fact, I hear it almost every single time me being a foster parent comes up.
So, I want to clarify a little something.
1) I am not some woman with the super power to love and attach only to the extent that it won’t hurt me.
That super power doesn’t exist.
I loved Leyla and I love Baby Z as though they were mine.


Sarah - Content Specialist for adopting.org, is a mother both biologically and through domestic infant open adoption. She resides with her husband and two boys in Ohio. She is passionate about open adoption and adoption education. In her free time she enjoys cooking, photography, writing, and hiking. You can find more of her adoption work at Heart For Open Adoption on Facebook or on Adoption.com.

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