I will first say that adoption is not right for everyone. It
is a selfless kind of love, even for the adoptive parents. No matter why you
found yourself wanting to pursue adoption, it is an emotional process.
For my husband and I, we were unable to have our children
biologically. We had always wanted to adoption, whether it was our only option
or not. It did, however, became our only way, but we also wanted it. We would
love an adopted child no differently than if we were to have a child naturally.
And we both felt that way. So my advice
to you, is that if you are going to adopt a child, with your spouse, please
make sure you are both on the same page. Adoption is hard enough as it is, you
need to have the support of your spouse.
I also suggest that you dig down deep in your heart and ask
yourself if you can love a child that you did not give birth to? Not because
you wished you had given birth to the child but because he/she was born to
another woman. It is one of the most beautiful things I have ever witnessed in
my life. We have plenty of family that has adopted and then when we adopted our
son, I finally realized what it meant to love another woman’s child. It truly is
beautiful. If you want some general information regarding adoption, you should
check out: adoptionarticles.com.
My other piece of advice. Ask others about their experience.
You will be amazed at how many people have adopted. And everyone has a story.
Sometimes it is great to get more perspective and know what they went through,
it may help you become aware of situations that may come up in your adoption
No matter what you decide, know that adoption from the
start, comes from the heart.