Choosing an adoption counselor is
probably one of the hardest parts of the adoption process. It is also one of
the most important parts. This is because adopting a child is a very personal
experience and has a lot of emotions that go into it. Most likely, there is a
personal reason why you are choosing to adopt a child. In some cases, it is
because you are unable to have a child of your own, and that is a very
emotional experience to go through.
When you are deciding an adoption
counselor, I would suggest meeting with more than one agency, if at all possible.
That is because you share your entire life with the counselor. You will share
your childhood, your marriage, your relationships, your feelings about
parenting, your feelings about adoption, and many other topics. You will want
to make sure you feel comfortable sharing all of those details with the
You will also want to make sure
your adoption agency will be able to fit your needs. Some agencies only work
with open adoptions. If you do not feel comfortable with an open adoption, you
should probably find a different adoption agency. The same goes for
international adoptions. Some agencies do not focus or do international
adoptions. If you want to pursue an international adoption, make sure your
adoption agency specializes in that country/or international adoptions.
Some questions that you may want to
ask your adoption counselor from the beginning are: what is the cost of the
process; what is the expected “wait time”; what will our communication look
like; how often will we meet; do you do open or closed adoptions; do you have
counseling services offered to potential adoptive parents; how many families
are on the wait list; what expenses will we be required to pay; what is our eligibility
for being able to adopt; is there any additional resources you offer to adoptive
parents; how many adoptions does your agency process in a year; how long as the
adoption agency been around; how long has the social worker been employed
there; do you have any financial assistance? Some of these questions will be
able to be answered just by going on to the agencies’ website. But you should
go to your first meeting with your counselor with questions prepared.
Here are some additional website
that will help you in the process:
I also suggest talking to other adoptive
parents, if you know any. Sometimes the best referrals come from someone who
has used the agency in the past.