I'm not sure what aspect of adoption you're
struggling with, but hopefully I can point you in the right direction.
Adoption can be very challenging for adoptees. Some struggle
with identity or sense of belonging. Many experience grief over the loss of
their birth families — especially those who were adopted as older
children. Whatever your situation, it’s important to be open and honest
with your feelings. Talk to your adoptive parents about what you’re going
through. They may have no idea how you feel. Tell them what you want/need to
feel safe, loved, and secure.
You may also want to try writing in a journal. Writing can be
very therapeutic and help you sort through confusing or troubling emotions. The
key is to get your feelings out, so they don’t cause you further problems later
on. It’s never a good idea to keep your emotions locked away, especially if you
are dealing with past hurt and trauma. Not dealing with these issues can lead
to more serious problems like depression and anxiety.
It also can be extremely helpful to ask for outside help.
Talk to other adoptees about how they coped with the challenges of being
adopted. The Adoption Forums at Adoption.com is a great place to start. There’s
a forum for Adult Adoptees (https://adoption.com/forums/100/adult-adoptees/)
as well as others on relationships, search and reunion, and general support.
You’ll find plenty of people who are in the same boat as you as well as those
who have been through similar situations.
If you’re having a lot of difficulty coping despite trying
these things, consider seeing a therapist. A trained professional can help you
process feelings of grief and loss and deal with trauma from past abuse and
In case you didn’t know, adopting.org also has a page
dedicated to adoptees that includes support groups, books and articles, and a
listing of therapists and counselors. You can find the page at: http://www.adopting.com/adoptees.html
You may also find the following resources helpful:
20 Quotes From Adoptees About Being Adopted - https://adoption.com/20-quotes-from-adoptees-about-being-adopted-that-every-adoptive-parent-should-read
Olympian, Teacher: Mary Wineberg Shares Her Story in a New Book - https://adoption.com/adoptee-olympian-teacher-mary-wineberg-shares-her-story-in-new-book
Hope this helps! Best of luck to you!