Are there benefits of a closed adoption?
While contact with birth families is believed to in the best
interest of most children, there are defiantly benefits of a closed adoption. Closed
adoptions can benefit both the adoptive families and the birth families by
affording privacy, eliminating blurry boundary situations, and offering protection
from unstable birth families.
A closed adoption provides protection from unsafe or
unstable or non-positive influences in which a birth family may be living. It
may be in the best interest of the child to have all contact severed from his
or her birth family. However, not all birth families are in negative
situations. The birth mother may choose a closed adoption for a variety of
reasons. She may have been too young, or the child conceived in a violent
manner, or she never told anyone she was pregnant. By choosing a closed
adoption, she may feel that she is protecting herself, her future family, and
even the child.
In our family, both of our adoptions are technically semi-open in
agreement, but are closed in function. For our boys, their birth families
asked for letters and visits once a year, but they have chosen to only get
letters sent to our agency. Sometimes they cannot be reached for the social
worker at the agency to forward on the letters and pictures. They have never
met their biological children, and the boys have not met their biological
families, though we have told them that they exist. Our situation makes life simpler
for our family. We have autonomy without needing to include either birth family;
though, we would welcome a meeting should they choose to initiate contact.
So, there are definite benefits of a closed adoption, but
each situation could change over time. It is important
to note that a closed adoption may not always remain closed. In this day and
time of technology and digital record trails, biological family records can be
traced if someone is looking. If an adoption agency was used to facilitate the
adoption, either party can contact the agency to initiate contact if they so
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