Are there benefits of a closed adoption?

Are there benefits of a closed adoption?

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  • Are there benefits of a closed adoption?

    While contact with birth families is believed to in the best interest of most children, there are defiantly benefits of a closed adoption.  Closed adoptions can benefit both the adoptive families and the birth families by affording privacy, eliminating blurry boundary situations, and offering protection from unstable birth families.

    A closed adoption provides protection from unsafe or unstable or non-positive influences in which a birth family may be living. It may be in the best interest of the child to have all contact severed from his or her birth family. However, not all birth families are in negative situations. The birth mother may choose a closed adoption for a variety of reasons. She may have been too young, or the child conceived in a violent manner, or she never told anyone she was pregnant. By choosing a closed adoption, she may feel that she is protecting herself, her future family, and even the child.

    In our family, both of our adoptions are technically semi-open in agreement, but are closed in function. For our boys, their birth families asked for letters and visits once a year, but they have chosen to only get letters sent to our agency. Sometimes they cannot be reached for the social worker at the agency to forward on the letters and pictures. They have never met their biological children, and the boys have not met their biological families, though we have told them that they exist. Our situation makes life simpler for our family. We have autonomy without needing to include either birth family; though, we would welcome a meeting should they choose to initiate contact.  

    So, there are definite benefits of a closed adoption, but each situation could change over time. It is important to note that a closed adoption may not always remain closed. In this day and time of technology and digital record trails, biological family records can be traced if someone is looking. If an adoption agency was used to facilitate the adoption, either party can contact the agency to initiate contact if they so desire.

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    Closed adoption is often chosen for a multitude of reasons. As we grow in knowledge, more are understanding the health of having an open adoption. However, most people also understand that there can often be extenuating circumstances that would make a closed adoption necessary. It may be difficult for people to understand the "benefits" of closed adoption, but there is however security in closed adoption. 

    When discussing the "benefits" of closed adoption, this is really dependent on perspective. An adoptive parent may feel it is a benefit to not have to "share" their child with another or want their child to feel like they only have one family. However, erasing a child's past is not the right nor ethical way to handle things. This perspective is generally one based in pride and often only benefits the adoptive parents. 

    When discussing security in closed adoption, there are many sensible reasons to go this route. If a child comes from a situation of domestic violence, closed adoption may be the only option to keep them safe. If a child is a result of a sexual assault, a birth mother may choose closed adoption as a way to protect their child from the facts of their conception. If there is any reason to worry that a child's life may be on the line if an adoption stays open, the choice to close it then becomes incredibly valid. 
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