Adopting After Infertility

In this article, the author addresses fertility as being a major reason many people come to the decision to adopt.  The article discusses the emotions infertility has on a person, how it can cause pain, lack of self-esteem and leave a person feeling less self worth. It goes on to discuss resolving the negative feelings associated with infertility before adoption and how a person goes about doing that.  Many adoption agencies also ask the question of hopeful adoptive couples, if they have dealt with their infertility and learned from the experience. A question many people have is if the child will feel like he is second best or a runner up decision for the parents.

“When the doctors told me I would probably never conceive a child, I felt like such a failure as a woman,” said the mother of two children adopted from Guatemala. “I mean, I worked hard all my life to accomplish what I wanted. I was top in my college class, I own my own company, I succeed at whatever I put my mind to. But the one thing that I wasn’t supposed to have to work at [conceiving and bearing a child] is impossible for me. Coming to grips with that was very hard. It’s still a sore spot for me.”

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Sarah - Content Specialist for, is a mother both biologically and through domestic infant open adoption. She resides with her husband and two boys in Ohio. She is passionate about open adoption and adoption education. In her free time she enjoys cooking, photography, writing, and hiking. You can find more of her adoption work at Heart For Open Adoption on Facebook or on

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