A Mother Describes Her Excruciating Decision To Reverse Her Daughter’s Adoption

One of the most difficult decisions anyone in adoption would ever have to make is whether or not to reverse the adoption of a child they took in and promised to love and care for. Sometimes though, unforeseen circumstances arise that no matter how much counseling, love, money and care goes into it, the adoption still has to be dissolved. Read this mother’s story.

She sacrificed time, energy, money – even her marriage – for her beloved daughter. But in the end, love wasn’t enough.

It was after writing an article to encourage hopeful adoptive parents to make sure they’re in the right place, emotionally, before adopting a child, that I began to learn more about adoption dissolution.

Thanks to a well thought-out comment on that article, I can now share with you the shame, horror, complete heartbreak, and hope for help and change from an adoptive mother who has experienced dissolution.

In Shelby’s words:  Adoption dissolution happens when an adoption of a child is completed and then at some point thereafter the adoption is legally dissolved and the child is no longer legally a member of that family. My daughter will always be my daughter in my heart, no matter what—I don’t need a piece of paper to tell me she’s my daughter.

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Sarah - Content Specialist for adopting.org, is a mother both biologically and through domestic infant open adoption. She resides with her husband and two boys in Ohio. She is passionate about open adoption and adoption education. In her free time she enjoys cooking, photography, writing, and hiking. You can find more of her adoption work at Heart For Open Adoption on Facebook or on Adoption.com.

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