This question, posed on Reddit, provoked some thoughtful responses that could benefit people preparing for their own adoption reunions.
“They don’t always go wrong,” replies one user. “I have been an onlooker in two reunions that went wonderfully well.” She adds, “There’s a lot that can go wrong. However, if both parties try to act generously, keep a tight rein on negative emotions, and don’t push too hard on boundaries, a reunion can be a joyous, healing experience.”
Another response takes the time to explore the factors that can create a less-wonderful reunion experience. These can include:
- Difficulty reconciling expectations with reality.
- Disagreements regarding how much contact/relationship to have.
- An off-putting sense of entitlement from one or both parties.