It’s interesting to hear the perspective of people living with open adoptions. Every open adoption has a different dynamic. It’s not a one size fits all relationship. Just like people are different, so are all open adoptions. Here is what Lori Holden has to say about open adoption.
An Open Adoption Interview With Lori Holden
Portrait of an Adoption is very excited to present this fantastic interview about open adoption with critically-acclaimed adoption author Lori Holden:
Q: Things seem to be opening up in adoption in many ways — ongoing contact with birth parents and opening birth records come to mind. Why do you think this is?
LH: Just as the Berlin Wall fell in favor of freedom over oppression, I believe that the human spirit strives for openness and light over closedness and fear. For about six decades, from the 1940s until recently, adoption was shrouded in shame and secrecy. We had to protect the baby and the *gasp!* unwed mother from societal shame, so (1) we sealed accurate birth records and replaced them with state-sanctioned falsifications, and (2) we counseled the parties involved in an adoption to act as if it had never happened — in essence, we suppressed and buried. We have been hearing for years from adult adoptees that this “as if” approach didn’t work so well for them, and as a result the open adoption movement swelled and has hit a tipping point.