“The kids who need the most love will ask for it in the most unloving of ways.” – Russel Barkley
This is a concept that is essential for parents to remember when helping children who have lived through serious trauma. It reminds me of similar saying: Hurt people hurt people. So remember, when your child is acting the least lovable . . . that is when they need to know most that they are loved. It’s easier said than done, but these are the times when you most need to be calm and compassionate while maintaining firm boundaries. For more help with parenting challenging kids, consider reading The Explosive Child: A New Approach For Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Ross W. Greene and The Connected Child by Karyn B. Purvis.