Taking an older child into your home and family, you expect the trauma. You read, you educate, you prepare yourself and your household for the changes that are coming. But what about the effect their trauma has on you. Late nights of no sleep because of worry, stress, relationships that change, cause trauma for us too.
Secondary Trauma: How Your Child’s Special Needs May Be Affecting You.
We know that children who have come from difficult places experience trauma, but what about you and I as parents? How do we handle the secondary trauma we experience as a result of the day in and day out battle of parenting them?
“Listen, you’re blood pressure is just too high. You need to lose some weight, eat healthier and get some exercise. Getting out for a workout will lower your stress level too. I know you can find just a few minutes in your day. On your way out, stop by the front desk and schedule an appointment for 6 weeks. I don’t want to scare you but we really need to keep an eye on this.” The doctor shut the door as my friend pulled her gown a little tighter around her hoping to hide how exposed she was feeling from the inside out. She quickly dressed and told the front desk she would have to check her schedule and call back about the appointment.