Many people who were adopted dream of one day being reunited with their birth family if they grew up in a closed adoption or adoption with limited information. This fellow adoptee shares his insight of what he wishes he would have known before that reunion.
Reunion might have been easier had I known this stuff first.
As an adoptee, I often wondered as I was growing up who my birth parents were and what the circumstances were surrounding my birth. Was my mother a beautiful movie star? Was my father a famous athlete? Did they tragically have to give me up for adoption for some crazy reason?
Deep down, I knew none of those fantasy scenarios were likely to be true. But I also didn’t know what was. And that made me uncomfortable and insecure. I had control over none of it, mind you. I was just a baby that was born who was placed for adoption. The circumstances were the circumstances. But even so, there are things I wish I knew before I uncovered the truth of my existence.