Brenda Cotter was adopted in the 1950s, when adoptions in the United States were often shrouded in secrecy. In her early twenties, she did a little detective work and tracked down her birth parents. She remembers that connection bringing her a sense of wholeness.
Now an adoptive mother herself, she’s experiencing an adoption reunion from an entirely different perspective. She writes, “When I sat down next to my daughter and looked into her birth parents’ eyes, my peace and equanimity flew out the window. I was terrified the new connection would alter our relationship in some as yet unknowable way.”