Before Natalie Brenner adopted, she thought of adoption as a cut-and-dried affair. It was as simple as parents deciding to adopt, selecting a baby, and bringing that child into the families. End of story.
In her most recent article on Adoption.com, Natalie describes things she believed about adoption before she became an adoptive mom: She thought adoption would be easy. She thought openness meant co-parenting. She thought all birth moms were single teens and/or addicts. She thought if biological parents didn’t continue contact, it was because they didn’t care. She thought talking about birth families with adopted children would be detrimental. She thought that birth moms were the only birth family members involved in adopting. She thought adoptive families were a perfect equivalent to biological families.