These answers to stupid questions can benefit everyone involved.
In the past couple of months, there seems to have been a deluge of blog posts and articles about stupid remarks about adoption. I think I read three different posts all titled “What Not to Say to Adoptive Parents.” You know the ones.
“How much did she cost?”
“Can’t you have any of your own?”
“I want to adopt after I have my own kids.”
“What if his real mom comes to take him back?”
“Wow! Her skin’s so dark. Where did that come from?”
In the comments, people post their sometimes sincere, but often snarky, replies:
“How many times did you have sex before you conceived?”
“My kids are my own.”
“I told you – my kids are my own.”
<Pokes person> “Gee, I feel pretty real, don’t I?”
“We bought her the Barbie tanning bed for Christmas.”
Unless you have an enormous chip on your shoulder—or you just like to verbally abuse people—there are really only three acceptable responses to stupid things people say about adoption.